This is the last part of the Patient Parenting series. It’s quite fitting because since is the last day of the year and we’re going onto a new year. Which means, we can have a fresh new start. If you feel as if you’ve been hard on your child the past year, or even hard on yourself, that’s alright. Tomorrow is a new day, and a new year!
I’m going to be honest and say that whenever I discipline my son and raise my voice, I feel like absolute crap. I feel so horrible and like a really big jerk. I hate the feeling and my husband has to put me on check to remind me of my attitude.
One of the greatest aspects of our children is that they forgive us, and still love us unconditionally. The way we raise our voices on our children is so unacceptable to others. We can never raise our voice to strangers, relatives, colleagues, and our parents without consequences. To teach our children how to apologize to others, we must also do the same. We must set aside our pride, and apologize to our children when we do something wrong, such as yelling at them.
The times that I raised my voice, leaving my son crying, and me feeling like a B word, I knew what I had to do, pick my battles and apologize. Apologizing doesn’t mean giving in to your child. It means you’re ready to start again and give each other a second chance. When apologizing to children you may say, “I was wrong for what I did, and I’m sorry.” That’s it, period. No other excuses such as, “I’m sorry, but if you hadn’t done that…” That is not an apology.
Let’s start the new year fresh, and not stress the little things too much. You know that saying by Mahatma Gandhi, “You must be the change you wish to see in the world.”? Well, in the case of parenting, we must be the change we wish to see in our children.
Have a Happy and Prosperous New Year!
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